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Ways to Develop a More Positive Mindset

Ways to Develop a More Positive Mindset

Having a positive mindset can lead to a more fulfilling and optimistic life. Many believe that the more you think positively, the more life will reward you. This is because of the energy you provide to others and your reactions to certain situations when you are in a positive state. Many aspire to have a more positive mindset, and you can, too, by following these eight methods.

  • Brush of negativity quickly; don’t dwell – Anytime you think of something negative, brush it off quickly, and don’t let it waste anymore of your time. Turn it around into something positive or, at the very least, neutral. For example, if you think something negative about your appearance, tell yourself one thing you do like about your appearance today instead.
  • Engage in positive self-reflection – At the end of your day, write down or tell yourself positive things about yourself or something good that you did that day. Also, take this time to realize and accept that you are not perfect, and it is okay to make mistakes. When you do this, you give yourself the ability to analyze where you went wrong so you can avoid repeating it in a healthy way.
  • Find inspirational and motivational things to read – Use your mornings reading or listening to inspirational and motivational speakers or people you look up to. If you start your day off positively, it is likely the rest of the day will follow.
  • Recognize accomplishments – Don’t allow yourself to dwell on the things you haven’t achieved yet. Instead, focus on what you have accomplished and be proud of it. Reward yourself, talk to friends and family about how satisfied you feel about your achievement. Don’t take your accomplishments for granted. Celebrate them and make the  and never forgotten.
  • Focus only on what you can control – The great thing and maybe a hard thing for some to grasp about life is that you can’t control every single thing. It is not always up to you. This is okay and the reality of life. Take it as a perk and sincerely analyze your ‘problem’ for what It is. If you can’t control it, you are only wasting your time focusing on it. Use this time on something more valuable.
  • Focus on today only – While you need to plan some aspects of your future, don’t spend your today only on that. Use all your time as wisely as possible. You are not guaranteed tomorrow, and the only thing that is real is right now.
  • Don’t focus on other people’s success – You can’t copy people's success no matter how hard you try because you will never be them. The only person you can be is you. If you focus on their success, it will only lead to your failure or, more accurately, your feelings of failure. If you focus on your progress, it will lead to success. An easy concept that can often be overlooked sometimes is that you will bring attention to whatever you focus on.
  • Change your perspective about challenges & stressors – Those who can solve problems easily live a more positive lifestyle by changing their perspective. These people often understand that problems, challenges, or everyday stressors are not something that should be seen as always unfavorable. These are experiences that allow them to grow and develop new skills. Without them, life would likely be a little boring.

As you can see, with these easy strategies, anyone can learn to have a more positive mindset. As you implement them, you will discover a more beneficial and rewarding life is waiting for you.

Easy Ways to Identify Your Strengths

Easy Ways to Identify Your Strengths

You probably hear the phrase often, “If you love what you do, you will never work a day in your life,” but the truth is it can be challenging to discover your true passions, let alone what you are good at. Identifying your strengths and weaknesses doesn’t have to be an overwhelming task.

All you need to do is look within yourself and pay attention to your actions and your feelings. Asking yourself the following questions can help you discover what you’re good at.

What are my hopes and dreams?

What makes you feel happy and motivates you? Ask yourself as many questions as you need to discover yourself truly. Having a great understanding of oneself can lead to discovering your true potential.

These questions are essential to ask, but the most significant thing of importance is answering the questions truthfully. This is because while you may be naturally good at many things, the key to discovering a real talent also means that you like what you’re doing. You may like baking bread well enough, but that doesn’t always translate into a loved career.

Being excited to do something gives you the motivation to do what it takes to be good at it. Because being good at something, even when you like it, takes practice. It can help you also if you may not have a natural talent, but you will have the motivation to do what it takes to improve your skills.

What skills allowed me to succeed in school or work?

What are the skills that you possess that allowed you to finish school or get promoted at your job? Write these skills down and then look within yourself to see which of these do you genuinely enjoy. Is there is something on this list that makes you excited as well? Remember, just because you are good at something doesn’t mean it is one of your strengths or that you even like it.

What skills do my parents or loved ones see in me?

When in doubt, ask your friends, family, and coworkers for advice. If they are around you a lot, especially at work, they will want to help. Coworkers and friends often see the value in others quickly because it benefits them to know. Don’t be shy to ask.

How can I continue to learn new things?

Discovering your strengths and talents also means you need to give yourself the time and availability to learn new things. You may not even know you are good at something because you never tried it. Make it a goal to try something new every month. It can be as simple as reading a new book about a topic of interest. The more you know, the more you can discover about yourself.

How do I spend your free time?

When all the important stuff is out of the way, what are you doing? What activities are you filling up your free time with or can’t wait to get to after work? Look at your hobbies and the activities you do when you are free and see how this translates.

As you can see, taking the time to discover yourself is the key to finding your strengths. Once you can outline these strengths, you can use them to lead a happy and fulfilling life.

Change Your Mindset to Boost Your Self Esteem

Change Your Mindset to Boost Your Self Esteem

Improving your self-worth and value is important to living a joyful life. If you cannot appreciate your own contribution to the life, it can be difficult to make sound decisions because you don’t value yourself or trust yourself. If you want to have more self-esteem, you can accomplish it in the following ways.

  1. Know Your Own Thoughts – Being mindful of the words you say inside your head is invaluable in building your self-esteem. Most of us have someone in our brain (us) telling us negative things. It’s imperative that you become aware of these thoughts so that you can turn them around into something positive that drives personal growth.
  1. Use Positive Affirmations – Sometimes, when people see the word “positive affirmations,” they get a mental picture of something quite silly and ineffective. Standing in the mirror saying random nice things to yourself – well, that can work, but you need to be more specific than this. Instead, every single time you think something negative, turn that particular thought around into a positive or even a neutral.
  1. Know What You’re Good At – Every person on the planet has a talent that is either known or unknown. If you don’t think you’re good at anything, what have you tried? If you’ve not tried enough things, you may have simply not found what you’re good at yet. Keep trying and learning and growing, and you’ll find it. Then when you do, accept that it’s what you’re good at. It’s OK to be good at something and to claim that you are.
  1. Surround Yourself with Positive Energy – This can be difficult if the negativity that is around you happens to be family. However, it’s imperative for your own mental and emotional health that you try to limit your exposure to negative people and energy and maximize your exposure to positivity.
  1. Volunteer in Your Community – The key here is to volunteer in a capacity that seems to offer nothing to you in return. The reason is if you’re getting too much out of it for your business, your church, or something other than the value provided to the people, land, or animals you’re helping, it’s no longer about that, it’s about you. Get out of yourself and help.
  1. Practice Self-Care – When you think of self-care, you may think of hair care, showering, and that type of thing. But it goes much further. It goes to the food you put in your body, the people you surround yourself with, and everything that you do that affects your mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health.
  2. Get Back to Nature – Even if you think that you don’t like the outdoors, the truth is, as a human-animal, you need nature. You need the sunshine to keep your circadian rhythms in check, you need the fresh air to oxygenate your blood, and you need good natural food to provide all the vitamins and minerals you need.

         

Remember that building your self-esteem takes time. It’s not something you can work on once a month or every January as a New Year’s resolution, it’s something you must practice daily for the entirety of your life. If you do, you’re sure to experience a much more satisfying life because you know you have value, and you know where you belong.

Happiness is a state of mind

Happiness is a State of Mind

You've seen people stay positive and happy while going through tragic situations. You've seen images from around the world of people with absolutely nothing, yet they are smiling and laughing.

Have you ever wondered how these people can be happy despite everything that's happening to them and those they love?

It's because they choose to be happy.

According to Marcus Aurelius, “Happiness depends on the quality of your thoughts.” Scientists have been studying happiness for a long time and there is a consensus that Marcus's view is correct.

So, instead of asking why these people are happy, you should be asking yourself, how you too can be happy, no matter the circumstances.

Here are some ways to help you find more happiness.

Take Control

If something is making you unhappy and you have the power to change it. Do it now. Don't give it more time to drag you down. Start taking action to address the issue and fix it.

If you're unhappy with a situation or a person and you have no way to change it, ask yourself if you really need it in your life. Sometimes you have to let go in order to be happy.

Find a Solution

If there's a problem, there is a solution. You may not have the power to fix the problem, but someone does. Find the solution and implement it. Remember, sometimes the solution is acceptance. This is especially true if the real solution requires someone else to accomplish it. Accept that you need help and ask for it. Your happiness is worth it.

Don't Fake It

It’s never a good idea to hide your true feelings and fake happiness. Being happy doesn’t mean you’re void of other emotions. It means being content and in charge of as much of your life as possible.

Live Without Expectations

One of the biggest killers of happiness is expectations. When you make decisions and do things without expecting something in return, you give yourself the freedom to make choices based on what you want rather than what others say you should want. You take control of your decisions. You reduce the chances of feeling anger or disappointment in the expected outcome. You allow yourself to live in the moment and enjoy life.

If you’re still not convinced, look around the world. You’ll see many people who have much less than you and yet are still happy. It may seem they have no real reason to be happy and yet they are. You too can be happy. You just need to set your mind to it. Work each day to feel gratitude. Take control of what you can and don't worry about what you cannot. Enjoy the life you've been given.

Mindset Hacks: Become More Resilient

Mindset Hacks: Become More Resilient

Do you know what the difference is between two people who deal with the same struggles in their life, but one person moves on from it, and the other person lets it negatively affect their life? It is all about resilience. This is the ability to bounce back from a setback or obstacle, no matter how severe or traumatizing it seemed at the time.

From a death in the family to bankruptcy or being involved in a natural disaster, unexpected events happen every day. Everyone has dealt with them, but it is about what you do about it, and whether or not you let it keep you from moving forward and moving on.

Here are some ways to work on your mindset and become a more resilient person.

You Are Already Resilient in Many Ways

To start with, look at the ways you are already a resilient person. Think of any difficult time in your life that you got through, extreme stress you overcame, traumas you have healed from. That shows resilience! This is not easy to do, no matter how difficult the situation was for you. A lot of people never get over certain things in their life, so by overcoming obstacles and challenges, you are already ahead of the curve.

Embrace Change and Growth

People think that resilience is difficult when you have a lot of unexpected tragedy or events in your life, but you aren’t special and you aren’t different. Everyone experiences them, but those who overcome them, are the ones that can embrace change and understand that it is important for personal growth.

Take forced change in your life as a change to grow and an opportunity to be someone better. There are so many ways to live your life, so many choices to make. And so many different ways of finding success and happiness.

You Can’t Control Everything That Happens to You

You can control how you react and what you think and feel, but you can’t control what other people do. Just like you have no say on the weather, you can’t prevent every bad thing from happening in your life. Instead of being upset about something you had no control over, just focus on how you react to it, and what you do afterward.

Look for Ways to Take Mental Breaks

You work hard and have a busy life – that means your mind needs a break as much as your body does. If during your downtime, you are still thinking heavy thoughts and never give your mind a rest, it’s going to be really hard to make necessary mindset shifts. Give your mind a break by doing something creative, having time for yourself, and having “no work” days. Take some time away from social media and spend time with others.

You are Responsible for Your Own Life

You are Responsible for Your Own Life

When life gets derailed, unexpected things happen, and you feel like other people have a strong influence on your happiness and success, you are going down the wrong path. You need to stop the blame game, stop playing the victim, and step up. This is your life, and you are the only one responsible for it. If you aren’t happy, content, productive, or successful, it really all comes down to you, the choices you make, and how you react to things that happen in your life.

Now is the time to take full responsibility of your own life if you want to make changes. Nobody is going to do it for you.

Put a Stop to the Blame Game

The blame game is something everyone is guilty of at some point, but when you make this a regular habit, you are only sabotaging yourself.

Your life is nobody else’s responsibility or their fault. Sure, people can influence certain things in your life, but at the end of the day, this is YOUR life. This means all decisions and mistakes are your responsibility, and you need to own that.

Once you can admit that you are blaming other people or other situations for your own decisions, you can finally feel like you have more control over your life.

It’s Time for the Complaining to Stop

Another bad habit that might be keeping you from being fully responsible for your actions is when you complain too much. This includes silent complaining you do in your own head, ranting or venting on social media, and complaining to friends and loved ones. Nobody wants to hear you do nothing but whine about your bad luck or mistakes you have made or how tired you are.

Stop the complaining and use that time and energy for action instead. Become more productive, find inspiration to move forward, and let everything else go. Everyone has something to complain about, but that doesn’t mean you should.

Give Up on the Excuses

A big part of taking responsibility for your life is putting a stop to all the excuses. These can often seem like valid reasons, until you really think about it realistically, then you understand they are nothing but excuses. Lying to yourself and trying to come up with “reasons” for why you can’t try harder, be courageous, or take the next step in your life, is only going to hurt YOU. And you are the one who will have to face the consequences of that.

Stop Taking Things So Personally

Don’t get me wrong – this isn’t easy to do in the beginning. But when you take offense to everything said to you or about you, you are the only one who is going to suffer. Remember that you can’t control what other people say or think. That is more about THEM, not YOU. Practice letting things go and just moving on.

Are You Self-Sabotaging?

Are You Self-Sabotaging?

You have enough to deal with in your life when it comes from outside sources, so the last thing you should be dealing with are obstacles you created yourself. Self-sabotage is much more common than people think, and is often so subtle that you don’t really you are doing it. Keep reading if you want to learn about the signs of self-sabotage, and how to stop this toxic bad habit.

Common Signs of Self-Sabotaging

The cruel thing about self-sabotage is that it is pain you are causing to yourself, but don’t always realize it. Here are some common signs that you have been sabotaging yourself and your own life.

You Focus Only on the Negative

The thing about being negative or having this type of mindset, is that it is so subtle, you don’t realize how much it is harming you. The more negative thoughts and feelings you have, the more you start to listen to your own mind, and don’t make room for positive thoughts.

You Procrastinate

Procrastinating is definitely a way of hurting you and your life, and absolutely can be considered self-sabotage. When you procrastinate, you are hurting the future you. You don’t get as much work done, miss deadlines, even potentially hurt your chances at a promotion at work. It keeps your business from going, and keeps you from reaching your goals. Being lazy is NOT going to help you.

You Are Always the Victim

Playing the victim isn’t going to get you sympathy or attention – it is only going to hurt you in the long run. Stop assuming you have bad luck, bad things only happen to you, or that your misfortune is the fault of other people. Are you an adult who can make your own decisions? If so, you’re not the victim.

You Compare Yourself to Others

Self-sabotage comes in many forms, and it isn’t always black and white. Sometimes, it is something that seems harmless, but is hurting you every time you do that. One example of this is when you are comparing yourself to others. You are not them, they are not you. You have different life experiences, different skills and talents, different friends. It doesn’t matter who they are or what they do – all you should worry about is what YOU do.

Once You Reach a Goal, You Lose it

Do you find that whenever you reach a goal or at least make progress towards one, you tend to then lose it? This is often from your own self-sabotage, something you do whether from a fear of success or loss of your motivation and focus. This is not only a sign of self-sabotage, but a side effect of it.

What You Can Do About it

Like anything else in your life, you are the one in control of your actions. Remember that you can stop self-sabotage and actually find happiness if you’re willing to put in the work. Here are some things you can do to stop this toxic habit:

Take Full Responsibility and Take Back Control

Taking responsibility for your actions is crucial, and is a topic that will keep coming up when you learn about how to improve your life. The reason is because people are easy to jump to negativity, assumptions, and excuses, but rarely take responsibility for their own actions and reactions.

If you are sabotaging yourself, that has nothing to do with anyone else, what happened to you in the past, or your “bad luck”. YOU did it, and only YOU can stop it.

Stop Yourself

Sometimes, those old habits of self-sabotage are hard to prevent. This is okay, as long as you don’t follow it through until the end. The more self-aware you become, the more you are able to recognize the signs of sabotaging your success early on, so that you can stop it dead in its tracks.

Do you notice that when you lose a few pounds, you instantly feel the urge to binge? There is probably a sign before this happens that lets you know what is about to happen. Look for that sign so you can be aware of it.

Let Go of the Past – You Don’t Live There Anymore

Let Go of the Past – You Don’t Live There Anymore

Although you don't control everything that happens to you, you have complete control over how you react to events. This control extends to events in your past. The past can have an incredibly strong hold on you, if you let it. Here's how to break the chain:


Let It Go

You have to start the process of getting out of the straitjacket of your past by declaring to yourself that you're going to let it go. It's as simple as that...at least to start. The point is that admitting that you want to move on from your past is a necessary stepping stone to everything that will follow.

Part of choosing to let something go is reclaiming control over your own story and acknowledging that, although something may have happened yesterday, you don't have to let it continually affect your today and tomorrow. That can be a beautiful thing as long as you have the power to forge ahead.


Avoid the Victim Mentality

Too often, when things from the past have a tight hold over us it's because we've, consciously or unconsciously, taken on the role of a victim. Part of this is down to fear, irresponsibility, or an unwillingness to take responsibility for something that happened in the past.

Analyzing your past isn't intrinsically bad, but spending a lot of times brooding about something bad that happened without offering any kind of new perspective or life lesson is definitely not product. It might even promote the kind of victim mentality and disempowerment that you're trying desperately to avoid on some level.

A lot of times, being the victim can feel good to people, as sick as that sounds. There's something reaffirming in blaming others and thinking that you were in the right after all and that, if you'd only been given a break or two, things would have turned out in your favor.

The trouble with taking a sense of victimhood to heart is that it keeps you stuck in your past and held in thrall to circumstances. People who forge their own path aren't prone to the victim mentality because they see themselves as the movers and shakers of their own reality. It's time to take back control over your own life.


Learn to Forgive

Going hand in glove with this kind of victim mentality is bitterness. That might sound strange at first, but oftentimes when people take on a sense of chronic victimhood they're extremely bitter at someone or something in their past as well. This all goes with a sense of disempowerment.

Instead of being stuck in a sense of victimhood, you need to choose to let things from the past go and forgive other people. The thing to realize is that other people were probably doing the best that they could do at that particular time.

There's a really good chance that they didn't mean to hurt or wrong you at all. It's time to forgive people from your past and embrace an empowering future.

How to Get Out of Your Head

How to Get Out of Your Head

Developing a mindset where you are strong, positive, and enlightened will require you to get out of your own head. If you are someone who tends to focus heavily on your thoughts and feelings, over-analyzes everything, and basically lives out detailed scenarios all in your imagination with a lot of assumptions, you are probably doing some big self-sabotaging.

When you live in your head like this, you make a lot of unfair assumptions, you turn small things into catastrophic things, and you probably deal with a lot of stress and anxiety as well. If you want to move forward and stop feeling like everything is falling apart, these tips can help.

Stop the Spiraling Thoughts

You know the ones we’re talking about. When you have one small thought that turns into a worry, that then spirals into a complete panic attack. Stop doing this to yourself. You are causing these thoughts to get out of hand, which is going to make it almost impossible to stop getting stuck inside your head.

Instead, try to stop the thoughts before they begin to spiral out of control. Recognize the signs of when this tends to happen, journal when you think you need to. Write down all your worries and concerns, but in a more constructive way. Try to remain neutral about it, as if you aren’t too concerned, but need to vent the thoughts out.

Learn How to Practice Mindfulness Correctly

Mindfulness has been a trending word for a few years, but many people still don’t completely understand it. Mindfulness might share some traits with meditation, but it is not the same thing. Mindfulness just means you are in the moment, whether it is a good or bad moment. You understand that what you think or feel right now is only in this present moment, it doesn’t have to define what you do after the moment is gone.

A really easy way to practice mindfulness is when you are eating. Sit in silence during a meal, and just concentrate on the food itself. The way it looks, its smell, the texture and taste. How your stomach feels while you are eating and shortly afterward. This practice can help a lot when you are first learning how to use mindfulness in your daily life.

Take More Control Over Your Thoughts and Feelings

You are driving the car that is your thought process and mindset, nobody else. Take more control over it, stop those out-of-control thoughts and feel what you choose to feel. Be the one behind the wheel by steering your thoughts one way or another. Especially when you sense the aforementioned spiraling of thoughts that tends to cause a lot more emotional issues.

Use Visualization

Visualization is an excellent tool when you are working on your mindset, particularly when you have trouble getting out of your own head. Visualize yourself being a strong, resilient, calm person. When you get stuck inside your head and feel the anxious thoughts reeling, take a step back and visualize that the panic gone and that all is right with the world.

7 Ways to Stop Looking for Validation

7 Ways to Stop Looking for Validation

Are you someone whose mood and entire day is ruined if you try to get approval from someone, and don’t get the response you wanted? If so, this is a big red flag that you are living your life trying to get validation from others, instead of from yourself. The only person who should validate you is yourself. You know yourself better, your skills and talents, your amazing traits, and your abilities. It is natural to want approval from others, but when you rely on that for your own happiness, you are only going to be disappointed.

Here are some different ways to stop looking for validation from others, and finally trust your own instincts.

1. Compliment Yourself Often

If you don’t want to get validation from others, that means validating yourself. What better way to do this than compliment yourself? The more you talk kindly to yourself and compliment yourself, both inside and out, the less you will feel you need validation from other people. This takes practice, but soon you will realize ALL you need is your own approval and acceptance.

2. What do You Want Other People to Say About You?

This is a good way to start being kinder to yourself and get out of the practice of looking for approval from others. Start by asking yourself what you hope someone else will say to you or about you. How would they validate you? Specifically, what do you want them to say?

Write it down, ands tart saying that to yourself.

3. Celebrate All Your Victories

Stop telling yourself there is nothing good about you or that you don’t deserve to be happy and kind to yourself. YOU DO. You just need to stop with all the excuses and negative self-talk. There is a LOT to celebrate about yourself, going far beyond your physical appearance. Think about your successes and triumphs, your skills and talents, things you love to do, what an amazing friend you are, how you have helped people.

When you identify your different victories, celebrate them. Celebrate them yourself, celebrate them with others, be proud of them.

4. Build Strength and Stop Looking for Approval

When you start struggling to not look for validation from other people, that is when you know you need to build your strength. We are talking about your inner strength here. Becoming someone who doesn’t care what other people think about you, how you look, what you do, or how you spend your time. This is your life, nobody else’s, so stop living for other people. They have their own lives to worry about.

5. You Know Yourself the Best

Another reason why you shouldn’t worry about validation from others is because you know yourself the best. Sure, people might have their opinions of you, but what do they know? NOTHING. What people see in brief glimpses doesn’t represent you or what you have accomplished, so that opinion is useless.

6. Selfies Should Be Fun

Have fun with your selfies! There is nothing wrong with wanting to make edits to feel more comfortable, as long as you are only doing it for yourself. Stop worrying about the right pose, the most flattering angle, smoothing out every line and wrinkle. You are a human being who is beautiful how you are, and as long as YOU like how you look, screw everyone else.

7. Practice Self-Awareness

Finally, try to have more self-awareness. This means looking past all those little judgments you tend to have of yourself, and be realistic. Celebrate your victories, appreciate yourself, flaws and all, and look beyond the surface. When you are more self-aware, you have a better understanding of how amazing you are, and you won’t need ot be told that by someone else.

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